“Nothing you do for children is ever wasted. They seem not to notice us, hovering, averting our eyes. And they seldom offer thanks. But what we do for them is never wasted.”
One of the nurses at the health center I work at said in passing the other day, “Children cannot be spoiled with time. They can be spoiled with money and stuff, but they can never be spoiled by spending time with them.”
I agree. It’s not possible to spend 24/7 with our children, so the time we give them is always meaningful, whether it be direct one-on-one or just observing them from afar, kids know and it means something good to them. Giving them our time is in and of itself a message that they are important to us. Who ever heard that song Cats in the Cradle? That song is not based on fluff, kids feel abandoned by parents that never invest their time but always make everything else their priority.
Sacrifices that are made willingly for children are also perceived, even if you might need to help it along by having a discussion. If you choose to not point it out, little kids may not make the connection on their own, sometimes teenagers won’t either, but eventually it all comes around. I know that as I get older, and as I matured through my young adult years, those sacrifices my parents made became more and more obvious. And I appreciated them.
The value of investing in our children with our time and attention is beyond a dollar amount. Children and youth are the future of tomorrow. What we do now and how much we invest in them with our time and attention will repay us ten-fold. Our goals should be to raise children that become resilient and compassionate adults, everything else will follow. So make your child your biggest priority and see the positive that comes from it.
Share your thoughts: How do you “invest” in your children?